Day #45

Today’s favourite poses: Child's Pose

Minutes with a relatively quiet mind: 0

Today’s interesting/thought provoking reading: (Taken from The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle)

Unless and until you access the consciousness frequency of presence, all relationships, and particularly intimate relationships, are deeply flawed and ultimately dysfunctional. They may seem perfect for a while, such as when you are “in love”, but invariably that apparent perfection gets disrupted as arguments, conflicts, dissatisfaction, and emotional or even physical violence occur with increasing frequency. It seems that most “love relationships” become love/hate relationships before long. Love can then turn into savage attack, feelings of hostility, or complete withdrawal of affection at the flick of a switch. This is considered normal. The relationship then oscillates for a while, a few months or a few years between the polarities of “love” and hate, and it gives you as much pleasure as it gives you pain. It is not uncommon for couples to become addicted to those cycles. Their drama makes them feel alive. When balance between the positive/negative polarities is lost and the negative, destructive cycles occur with increasing frequency and intensity, which tends to happen sooner or later, then it will not be long before the relationship finally collapses.

It may appear that if you could only eliminate the negative or destructive cycles, then all would be well and the relationship would flower beautifully – but alas, this is not possible. The polarities are mutually interdependent. You cannot have one without the other. The positive already contains within itself the as yet un-manifested negative. Both are in fact different aspects of the same dysfunction. I am speaking here of what are commonly called romantic relationships – not of true love, which has no opposite because it arises from beyond the mind.

On the positive side, you are “in love” with your partner. This is at first a deeply satisfying state. You feel intensely alive. Your existence has suddenly become meaningful because someone needs you, wants you, and makes you feel special, and you do the same for him or her. When you are together, you feel whole. The feeling can become so intense that the rest of the world fade into insignificance.

However, you may also have noticed that there is a neediness and a clinging quality to that intensity. You become addicted to the other person. He or she acts on you like a drug………


….….OMG HAVE I LIVED THIS!!! But as my dear friend Greg, (my Jedi Master/ Sage) tells me, “Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol, morphine or idealism.” – Carl Jung. (He includes his writing in this, but that I don’t buy! =) ;)